Yesterday I had a newsfeed full of posts regarding local girl who had taken her life that day. Suicide hits home. I’ve known too many either personally or indirectly that have taken their own lives and even one is too many.
I clicked on the hashtag they had made up for the girl (I will not post it for respect for the family). The reason – I can’t tell you why. Every post that flashed through my newsfeed explained or alluded that she was the victim of bullying. I came across one post, with the most disturbing things I have ever read. They were print screens of posts from her wall and conversations of open bullying posted right for anyone to see – complete with replies. People, presumably school peers, stating that she should stop talking about all these attempts and just be successful next time. Posts that were derogative, nasty and so very hard to believe.
I can not believe these words were written, by teens nonetheless. Who could be so cruel, how does one even think those things let alone write them? I would be devastated, angry and a whole slew of emotions if I had ever known my child had said such things. I am determined to make sure it never happens and I hope you are too. I want to raise my child to be himself no matter what way the crowd is going. If the group is picking on this person, I want him to be the one to lend a hand to help. I want him to be the friend that reaches out. I want him to use his voice. Be confident. Know right from wrong.
We all have a responsibility as parents to give our kids the tools to be successful in life. This includes learning to be a good friend. Being responsible for our actions. Understanding the importance of what we do, say and how we act. To be open with us about things happening at school – to establish communication and a relationship where they feel comfortable telling us anything. None of this is easy, but we need to do our best to mold them into the best they can be.